Feeling Stuck? As Yourself This
At some point, you may find yourself wondering, Who am I now?
You’ve spent years building a career, raising a family, or meeting expectations. But now, something feels off. You’re not sure what’s next, and the usual routines don’t bring the same satisfaction.
If this sounds familiar, it’s time to pause and take stock.
This guide will help you:
- Identify the beliefs shaping your choices
- Spot patterns that hold you back
- Reconnect with what excites you
- Take small steps toward change
Step 1: What’s Shaping Your Life?
Your thoughts, choices, and actions are influenced by past experiences, culture, and social expectations. Many of these influences operate in the background, shaping your beliefs without you realizing it.
Take a moment to reflect:
- What messages did you grow up with about success, relationships, and happiness?
- How have these beliefs influenced your decisions?
- Which ones still feel true, and which feel limiting?
Example:
Maybe you were taught that a “good job” means stability, but now you crave more creativity. That belief may be keeping you from exploring new opportunities.
Action:
Write down one belief that no longer fits and consider what might be a more useful perspective.
Step 2: What Patterns Are Holding You Back?
Many people repeat behaviors without realizing it. These patterns, or “loops,” can keep you stuck.
Look for these common loops:
- Saying yes to things out of obligation
- Ignoring your own needs to avoid disappointing others
- Staying in situations that feel comfortable but unfulfilling
Example:
You always put work first and postpone personal goals. Over time, this becomes a habit, making change feel impossible.
Try this exercise:
- List three habits that drain your energy.
- Ask yourself: Why do I keep doing this?
- What’s one small change you can make this week?
Step 3. What Energises You?
If you want more clarity, start paying attention to what excites you.
Make a quick list:
- What activities make time fly by?
- What topics do you enjoy reading or learning about?
- When do you feel most engaged and alive?
Example:
You lose track of time when painting, cooking, or hiking. But you rarely make time for these things.
Action:
Choose one activity you enjoy and schedule time for it this week. Even 20 minutes can make a difference.
Step 4. What’s One Step You Can Take?
Big changes start with small decisions. You don’t need a perfect plan—just a clear next step.
Ask yourself:
- What’s one thing I’ve been putting off that I can start today?
- Who in my life supports the changes I want to make?
- What’s one habit I can let go of to create more space for what I want?
Example:
If you want more time for yourself, set a boundary around work or social obligations. If you want to explore a new interest, sign up for a class or workshop.
Take the Next Step
You don’t have to figure everything out at once. Start with one small step and build from there.
If you want more structure, check out the ‘Rediscover Yourself’ ebook, part of the Who Am I Now? Starter Kit. It’s a practical workbook designed to help you reflect, reset, and move forward.
